45 Life Lessons I Learned
To Inspire Other Women

45-things-i-know-for-sureA few years ago, I shared a piece on Maria Shriver’s site about 45 things I’ve learned in my 40+ years and now know to be true. I realized recently that I never shared them here with you.

I find myself reading through them often, as gentle reminders of how I want to live my life: strong, giving, badass, accepting, allowing, healthy, focused, shining, loving, and yes, peaceful. It’s a tall order, and some days are better than others, but I never stop trying.

Never stop learning.

Never stop growing.

One foot in front of the other. One step at a time.

45 Things I Know for Sure:

1. It’s not all about you.
2. Life is a boomerang. What you put out there eventually comes back to you.
3. You’re only as badass as you allow yourself to be. Stop waiting for permission.
4. Living someone else’s dream will surely kill your chance of living yours. Don’t do it.
5. Dimming your light to make others feel more comfortable doesn’t serve you. Or them.
6. Don’t worry so much about what other people think about you. They’re usually thinking about themselves, anyway.
7. Feelings are temporary and always changing. Wait 24 hours before you make the call or hit “send.”
8. Fast friendships are usually fleeting. Lifelong friendships take years to build.
9. People and relationships are in our lives for a reason. Either a lesson or a blessing.
10. Another person will never complete you. Only you can do that.
11. Boyfriends and husbands are lovely. Close girlfriends are gold.
12. Chocolate makes everything better.
13. Minimize or eliminate time with people who drain you. Instead, spend time with those who love, support and care for you.
14. You must use your voice, speak up and speak out. No one will do it for you.
15. You’ll never change a narcissist or a hater, so direct your energy elsewhere.
16. People do things for their reasons, not yours. Don’t take it personally.
17. Stop comparing yourself to others. It’s more than ok to be an original. In fact, it’s preferable.
18. No amount of designer handbags or shoes is going to make you happy in the long run.
19. The same goes for chocolate chip cookies.
20. Get over yourself. The next time you find yourself having a pity party, ask, “how can I be of service to someone in need?”
21. Use the good china.
22. Never trust anyone who is unkind to animals. Or rude to the waiter.
23. Good skin is one part genetics and two parts preventative care, so wear sunscreen. Daily.
24. If diets worked, we wouldn’t have an obesity epidemic. Focus on your health and you’ll never have to worry about your weight.
25. Get some physical exercise every day. See #24.
26. Your mind and body are the same: what you put in is what comes out.
27. Nobody really loves you for the size of your waistline.
28. Worrying about something that might happen is wasted energy.
29. Black and white is an illusion. Life is gray.
30. Forgiveness is hard work, but it’s the only path to peace.
31. Go within. Your spiritual muscles need exercise as much as your physical ones do.
32. You can’t completely eliminate fear, but you can learn to manage it.
33. 95% of the time, fear is a sign post for growth.
34. The joy of mastery resides on the other side of fear.
35. It hurts more NOT to do it.
36. Money likes to be paid attention to. If you’re not paying attention, it will wreak havoc in your life.
37. A family isn’t just something you’re born into, it’s something you create.
38. Don’t just take their word for it. Question authority, do your research and know your rights.
39. Don’t believe everything you think.
40. Small minds focus on problems. Big thinkers focus on solutions.
41. Doing epic shit is hard work.
42. It’s easy to be mediocre. Extraordinary takes balls.
43. 98% of people are on the path of least resistance. Forging your own path is revolutionary.
44. You don’t know until you know.
45. Love is the answer.

Which one is your favorite?

Do you have another one you would add to this list?


  1. Liz,

    As always you inspire. It’s as if you were in my head and each of the 45 things evoked a very real lesson for me throughout my lifetime as a 40-something so far.

    My favorite has to be this one ” Boyfriends and husbands are lovely. Close girlfriends are gold.”

    Without my sacred sisterhood — near and far, I’d not be as supported as I am. There’s something to be said for that.

    Thanks for sharing and for daring to BE YOU.

    Love ♥

  2. Love it. Tweeting it.

  3. Thanks for sharing this! Lately, I’ve been bogged down by fear – the fear of change, fear of possible rejection, fear of not being good enough. Sharing this list has been part of a huge motivational kick to get over my fears and keep pushing forward! Thanks 🙂

  4. All 45 were so true and some epic. Pushing 50 this year I can relate and say with confidence that all of the above can have a profound meaning in your life. Thank you so much for sharing!

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